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Palmistry???

Tuesday, May 16, 2006

Strong personal power makes a strong relationship

Notice that the Heart Line is long and curved up well under the index finger. This person expresses love and intimacy energy in a relationship with a lot of confidence, charm, and personal power. The index finger is used frequently to point and gesture to emphasize one's strong personal intentions. Of all the fingers, the index finger is used to most strongly express personal power. This curved long Heart Line ending near the base of the index finger indicates it is using this personal power in relationships.

In a relationship, Nurturer types are very giving, nurturing, and tend to satisfy the needs of the mate before their own needs. In the field of psychology they often are classified as co-dependent. The real truth, according to palmistry, is that they are idealists and sentimentalists who see their efforts and caring as their most precious gift to others. They have a lot to give others and do so willingly.

Receiving is as important as giving

A common relationship pattern for a person with this Nurturer Heart Line is this: She or he goes into the relationship giving 150%, and never says that anything is expected in return. However, she or he assumes that something equal will be returned. This is natural because a Nurturer is an idealist! Unfortunately, the type of partner attracted to the Nurturer usually is the opposite type. So at some point in the relationship the Nurturer starts feeling resentful and "used". Also the Nurturer's partner no longer gets what she or he has grown to expect, so is dissatisfied, too. When this happens the relationship is over for both unless they can see what is happening.

Nurturer types need to understand their own psychological needs and make contracts to get those needs met in order to avoid this relationship pattern. Very early in the relationship Nurturers need to say clearly that (1) they are givers, and (2) what and how much they want to give to the relationship. Then they (3) must say what it is they expect in return. The last step (4) is to ask the partner if she or he is willing to give back what is desired. This contract can be renegotiated at any time. Maybe it isn't written down or stated in exactly this way; however, some form of a contract, agreement, or understanding is essential. Without this basic understanding (i.e. "contract"), the Nurturer may frequently feel ripped off and used.

The real psychology to understand is this: The Nurturer should learn to love self enough to feel OK about asking for what is wanted, and be able to receive it without guilt. She or he needs to know that it is not necessary to give 150% in a relationship in order to get acceptance and love.

...:::My Thoughts:::...2:19 am